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Category: Advice for My Children

It is the beginning of 2023

2023 is a special year for me. I suppose my life is 70 years long.

I’ve looked to my family’s history as a reference, my grandpa passed away before turning 80 and my dad is in his seventies. Based on this, I’ve made a conservative estimate that my life will be 70 years long. If that’s the case, on May 15, 2023, I will have only 10,000 days left to live in this world.

Have you ever thought about how many days you may have left in your life? It’s a sobering thought, but one that can help us make the most of the time we have.

In a Youtube video, I heard a story about Kevin Kelly, a wise man in his 69th, share an advice that really resonated with me. He has a countdown timer on his computer screen to remind him how many days he has left in his life. This made me think: if we knew exactly how many days we had left, we wouldn’t waste a second. We would live every day to the fullest.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized the importance of seeking advice from those who have gone before us. I wish I could have let go of my ego and talked to my dad more when I was younger. Although my dad is a quiet man, I’ve learned so much from him.

In my 11,813 days of life, I’ve learned valuable lessons that I want to pass on to my children. Suppose I have learned on valuable lesson each day in my life, and if I can only each one valuable lesson to my children everyday for the rest of my life, I have more lessons I need to tech them than the days I have left in this world. That’s why I’ve decided to start a series of articles called “Advice for My Children.” In these articles, I’ll share some of the biggest challenges I’ve faced in life and how I’ve dealt with them. I hope that my children and anyone who reads these articles can gain wisdom from my experiences.

I hope, one day with AI tech, my children can feed these articles to a bot. They can ask for advice from the bot as if they are talking to me, long after I am gone.

Advice for My Children #1

If you’re worried, write it down.

We all worry about things from time to time. Some worries can be ignored, while others keep us up at night. If you can’t shake a worry, write it down. Be specific about what’s worrying you and why. By writing it down, you may find the solution comes to you. If not, put your writing away and come back to it in a couple of weeks. You’ll be surprised at how much things can change in just a short period of time. I learned this technique from the book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” by Dale Carnegie and it has helped me a lot when I faced responsibilities that seem unbearable in my 20s, personal failure that could ruin the rest of my life in my 30s, and financial hardship in my 40s.